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February
24

I sat with so many of the gay couples, they were so devoted to another. I saw so much love. When this hearing was over, I was a changed person in regard to this issue. I felt that I understood what same sex couples were looking for.

Maryland House of Delegates member Wade Kach, who was one of two Republicans to vote for gay marriage legislation, which passed the House of Delegates on Thursday.

Governor O’Malley is expected to sign the bill into law soon, making Maryland the eighth state to legalize same-sex marriage.
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February
9

The making of gay marriage’s top foe

by Mark Oppenheimer, Salon.com

If like me, you have wondered how anyone can make a career out of hatred toward those who haven’t done anything wrong or can say things that are both patently false and rooted in some kind of phobia (xena, homo, otherwise) then I would suggest reading this profile of Maggie Gallagher.

She runs NOM, the poorly named National Organization for Marriage, and she has made it her life’s work to keep marriage between one man and one woman. Gallagher argues for this type of “traditional marriage” for the sake of the children (won’t you think of the children?) arguing that children do best when raised by a mother and a father, a belief maybe she holds because she raised her son as a single mother for the first many years of her life. Obviously, the man+woman=good, happy children equation has been repeatedly shown to not be a cure all for society’s problems.

Something else Mag-Mags hates is feminism and gender equality. I mean she really loathes it. Maybe because, as a conservative woman, she has probably not been around a lot of men who embody that gender equality that makes life easier and because she can’t have it and doesn’t understand how it exists, hate on it she must. This is also how Oppenheimer characterize’s her thoughts on such issues:

Because men are so different, society developed norms to pressure men to take responsibility they might wish to avoid. The naive hope of the women’s movement, that gender roles could wither away, has only tangled ladies’ stockings in a hopeless knot: Without marriage norms, and the sex norms that go with them, men can get away with anything — all the sex they want, and no more of the housework than before.

Of course this isn’t true but Maggie Gallagher doesn’t care about truth but rather how she has been wronged by the world and how she can make others suffer like her.

It’s a long read but worth it.
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February
7

About the dissenting opinion

The Prop 8 ruling was 2-1. The justice who dissented is N.R. Smith and according this Wall Street Journal article his reasoning:

He wrote that he wasn’t convinced that there couldn’t have been a rational basis for citizens to enact the law, such as promoting responsible procreation and optimal parenting.

what.a.jag-off

I’m sorry- last time I checked all it takes for straight people to “procreate” is to have sex. There doesn’t have to be love, knowledge of the other person’s name and least of all any actual responsibility in order for a baby to made. There are plenty of television programs, reality and scripted, that document this fact. Nor do these circumstances create “optimal parenting.”

AND YET when we talk about gays & lesbians, who can’t just have a quickie and then create a baby without forethought but RATHER have to go about extremely deliberate steps to be able to become parents, this a-hole is suggesting that there might be a rational basis for bigots to enact a law keeping them being able to be married.

UGH.
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February
7

reuters:

A U.S. appeals court ruled that California’s gay marriage ban violates the constitution on Tuesday in a case that is likely to lead to a showdown on the issue in the Supreme Court.

DEVELOPING: California gay marriage ban unconstitutional, ruling says.

This is awesome. Even if you don’t want to enter into a legally sanctioned partnership with the one you love, this is an important part of telling Americans that gay rights are not special rights, they are equal rights.

Special high-five to my husband for texting me the decision while I was in a meeting with a client.

And as a reminder, gay marriages or any other marriage for that matter does not and will never “ruin the sanctity of” or “destroy” or affect (negatively) in any single way my own marriage or anyone else’s. That argument is patently absurd. You picking up what I’m putting down, fear-mongering “value voter” “Christians”?
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January
27

The Polyamory Trap

Subheadline: The rights wants to use the “slippery slope” of polyamory to discredit gay marriage. Here’s how to stop them.

By Jay Michaelson

I personally don’t take issue with polyamory. What consenting adults want to do with other consenting adults in their private lives is none of my business. But I also realize a lot of people do seem to care about such things and are using this lifestyle (I’m not sure that’s the word for it) to make an argument against giving gays* their equal right to marriage. Here is an article to combating this tactic (because you know just point out that the slipper-slope argument is a fallacy isn’t enough to convince them.)

*I don’t mean to lump everybody into the same group. Like “the gays” but I’m doing it here for simplicity’s sake. Forgive me?
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I sat with so many of the gay couples, they were so devoted to another. I saw so much love. When this hearing was over, I was a changed person in regard to this issue. I felt that I understood what same sex couples were looking for.

The making of gay marriage’s top foe

About the dissenting opinion

The Polyamory Trap

By Jay Michaelson